“No such thing as a life that’s better than yours. No such thing as a life that’s better than yours. No such thing as a life that’s better than yours. No such thing, no such thing.”

– J. Cole

Out of every lesson I have learned, the biggest one came from the most unlikely of places, a rapper. I made a horrible habit of admiring the lives of others and never being grateful for everything I had been provided with.

In my young adult life, I’m talking around 19 years old until the age of 28, I just could not understand why my life was the way it was. I genuinely thought God had a grudge against me, I thought, He hated me. As I looked around, I saw my friends graduating, getting dream jobs, getting engaged then married, vacationing, basically being “happy”. There I was working a dead-end job, couldn’t keep a relationship, living with family, and broke. I lost my mother at the age of 19, lost my only child at 28, both unexpectedly. I was at my personal rock bottom.

I have changed my whole life, not saying I haven’t had any amount of “favor”, but luck is PREPARATION meeting opportunity . I did it the long hard way, like Kendrick Lamar said, “Ain’t nobody praying for me”! I won’t lie though, I have had a hell of a ride along the way, and I would like to share what I do to keep my spirits up with you. Some people sing, meditate, pray, run, and read. I happen to shop, make myself up, do my hair, and keep my self esteem and confidence high. Everyday is not perfect, but it keeps my spirits high and allows me to focus on my accomplishments and what I want for year 2030 me.